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Before he left, he asked me for my number to keep in touch and that was that. I draw most of my wisdom from this article by Rachael K. The biggest problem with girls being coy and playing "hard to get" is that it is built on the assumption that a girl's "no" is actually just a "yes" that needs a little more convincing. When we send the message that resistance is a form of flirtation—a strategic move in the game of love—we romanticize the imposition of one human being’s will on another. But guys, you don't think you're being rapey by trying to win her love. As D' OB explains: In my house, we got rewarded with going out to dinner at Friendly's if we got good grades at the end of the semester. You played the game by the rules that society told you! But it's not your fault that you're angry. As Cracked's Daniel O' Brien says brilliantly in , treating relationships as a "game" or an "earned achievement" doesn't work, because sometimes you will try your very best and a girl will STILL say no. Sometimes our affections are not reciprocated (this goes for all genders).Recently I asked 'out' a girl who I work with, and had gotten to know pretty well one day, if she would like to go roller-skating with me friday - she agreed, but I can't tell if she acquiesced just to be polite, or knowing that I work with her, wants to be friends, etc. upfront does not, however, neccesarily mean unsubtle!I just don't feel comfortable enough to ask a girl out on a date who I know very little about, so I usually settle for some activity or place to meet and leave my choice of words limited to just that - and in doing so maybe give the girls the wrong idea. As a girl, I would appreciate it a lot if guys were more upfront and direct about their intentions.